Frequently Asked Questions
Therapy for Kids and Adolescents Therapy for Adults
How is child therapy different than adult therapy
Child therapy usually involves some play therapy in addition to talking therapy. I may use toys, games, books or projects as part of the process along with talking.
I may function as an advocate for the child and family, such as when I can help by intervening with the school.
Also, for therapy with children and adolescents, I involve the parents throughout treatment.
What should I expect – child
Usually when a child is involved, I like to meet with the parents alone first to discuss the presenting problems and concerns, and to find out more about the background of the child and the family. The next session will begin with meeting all together with the family, and then spending a little bit of time individually with the child if he/she is comfortable.
I like to clarify with the child and the family what I do and how I can help. Towards the conclusion of the session I will try to discuss a plan of what I hope to accomplish in the therapy. I will also make some suggestions regarding what the child and family can do to help facilitate and support the therapy, such as school contacts, behavioral charts and referrals to other professionals.
What should I expect – teen
When a teen is involved I usually like to meet with the whole family together in the first session to talk about the problems and issues of the family. I take the remaining part of this assessment spending time getting to know your teen. It is important at this time that a beginning connection is made so that your teen feels understood and listened to. Issues of confidentiality and privacy are also discussed with the teen and the family.
How are parents involved
Parts of the therapy session may involve parents for both child and adolescent therapy. Sometimes a family session is necessary or a parent counseling session with just parents alone. This all depends on the particular situation, problem, family and individual child/adolescent.
What To Tell Kids
For younger children, we explain that they are going to see a "talking" or "feeling" doctor, someone who plays and talks with kids and families. For older children, it usually helps to talk about the problem that the family may be having.
How are kids referred to therapy
Kids may be referred to therapy in different ways by different professionals. Sometimes parents decide that they need help with a particular problem or behavior at home or at school. They may look for a therapist online or ask a trusted professional such as a pediatrician or family doctor, a teacher or a school counselor or principal, a minister or a rabbi, or maybe just a good friend who has had a good experience working with me.
How do I know if it is working
Therapy is about starting the process of change. Sometimes change is slow and takes time. Over time, you should notice differences in your child’s behavior and sense of well-being. School work may improve, relationships get better, and the child's attitude improves.
When Is Therapy Over
This is usually something I decide with the family. This is a mutual decision between the parents and me, with significant input from the child/adolescent.